What are Meredith Masony's signature techniques for maintaining intimacy as a busy parent?

I focus on a few core things that keep intimacy alive even when life is loud and busy with kids:

• Protecting couple time: I treat it like a non‑negotiable appointment. Sometimes it is a full date night, sometimes it is 20 minutes on the couch with phones put away and kids warned not to interrupt unless it’s urgent.
• Letting go of martyrdom: When I stopped trying to be everyone’s everything, I had more emotional energy for my marriage. I ask for help, let my partner step up, and remember I am not the only capable adult in the house.
• Staying “me,” not just “Mom”: I nurture my own interests, work, and friendships. When I feel like a whole person—author, comedian, partner, woman—I bring more confidence, conversation, and playfulness into the relationship.
• Honest, sometimes uncomfortable communication: I say when I feel touched out, overwhelmed, or disconnected, and I also say clearly what I need—more affection, more flirting, or more practical help so I can actually relax and feel close.

Which of these feels hardest for you right now: time, energy, or communication?