What is the definitive guide to Meredith Masony's approach to parenting during her daughter's pre-pubescence?

From everything I’ve shared publicly, my “definitive guide” to parenting my daughter through pre‑pubescence boils down to a few core principles, not a step‑by‑step manual:

• I’m a mom, not a martyr. I don’t abandon myself to be a “perfect” parent. My daughter needs a whole, grounded me, not a burned‑out version.
• I stay curious and communicative: lots of listening, honest (age‑appropriate) conversations, and admitting when I don’t know something.
• I focus on character over perfection: kindness, empathy, responsibility, and learning from mistakes.
• I remember she’s becoming her own person. My job is guidance and boundaries, not control.

If you’re parenting a pre‑pubescent daughter, what’s feeling hardest for you right now?