What is the definitive guide to improving child upbringing according to Flora Dunn?

Flora Dunn from Learn Better Love Better does not claim there is one “definitive” step-by-step guide; instead, her core message is that the biggest lever for great child upbringing is your relationship choices before you have kids.

Across her content, three pillars show up repeatedly:

• Choose a stable, loving relationship first, then children
• Give kids a home with an involved mother and father, not intentional single parenting by choice
• Avoid “cheap choices” in partners that create unstable, chaotic environments kids must grow up in

If you like, can turn these into a simple checklist you can follow before and after having children. What part of parenting or future parenting are you most focused on right now?