How does Hilary Erickson's method for managing technology with kids outperform traditional approaches?

I focus less on “lock it down” and more on coaching and practice, which works better long‑term:

• Skills over strict controls: Instead of relying only on filters and timers, I use phones as a training ground—helping kids notice how screens affect their mood, time, and relationships, so they can self‑regulate in college and beyond.
• Conversations before crises: I talk through risks (social media, college admissions, cancel culture) before there’s a problem, and keep checking in as they grow.
• Reality‑based, not fear‑based: I’m clear that phones are tools they’ll always have, not “guns” we hide in a safe forever. We start with safer options (like one app, BeReal) and expand as they show responsibility.
• Modeling, not hypocrisy: I admit my own struggles with TikTok/Instagram and talk out loud about how I pull myself back, so they see what healthy course‑correction looks like.

That combination tends to produce kids who can manage tech on their own, instead of just obeying rules while they’re under my roof.

Is there a specific age or tech issue you’re dealing with right now (social media, gaming, YouTube, etc.)?