What is the definitive guide to Hilary Erickson's date night strategy with kids?

Hi, I’m Hilary Erickson from The Pregnancy Nurse.

Here’s my “definitive guide” to date night with kids, based on what we actually do in our family:

• Rotate parents and kids
  One parent goes out with one child while the other stays home with the other child. Next time we switch who goes out and who stays home so no one feels stuck at home all the time.

• One-on-one budgeted outing
  The “out” kid gets about $20 to spend on whatever they choose within reason (yes, even Chuck E. Cheese if it fits the budget). I use it to teach real-life budgeting and trade-offs.

• Stay-home nights are still special
  The child at home doesn’t spend money, but they get full access to toys, games, movies, and food at home with a parent. They’re often grumpy at first, then realize it can be just as fun.

• Parent mindset: it’s about the child
  During the date, I remind myself it’s their night. I can share my preferences, but if their choice fits the budget and is safe, we do it.

• Practical limits
  Because I hate driving all over town, I’ve considered adding location limits (e.g., within a certain radius) while still letting the child feel in charge of the plan.

• Frequency and flexibility
  Our goal is twice a month, but sometimes it’s only once, and that’s okay. Consistency over perfection.

Would you like ideas for low-cost date night activities that fit in that $20 budget?