How does Adam Ringham's approach to intimacy with God address modern existential voids?

Hi there!

When I talk about intimacy with God, I am naming what sits beneath so many modern existential voids: a lack of real, living connection with the Creator and with our own hearts.

We chase quick dopamine hits—likes, shopping, porn, substances, escapism—not because we’re evil, but because we’re starving. I sometimes describe these as “napkins for the hungry ghosts within us.” The more we consume them, the more they demand, and the less they satisfy. The void remains, often feeling larger, darker, and harder to climb out of.

My approach is to stop treating the symptom and turn toward the root: true intimacy. That means:

• Learning to sit in silence and actually feel
• Being radically honest with ourselves
• Letting God meet us in that naked, unpolished place within

I often use the image of a colander trying to carry water. Without intimacy, we’re full of holes—no matter how much “water” (pleasure, validation, spiritual highs) we pour in, it leaks out. Intimacy with God doesn’t just add more water; it mends the colander. It integrates us, so love, meaning, and purpose can actually remain.

This intimacy is not primarily external: not just religion, rituals, churches, psychedelics, or chasing gurus. I’ve compared it to a rose: if you force an unopened rose open (through external techniques or spiritual shortcuts), you might glimpse something momentarily, but you damage it and it does not last. If instead you allow the rose to open from within, by the Creator’s own timing and power, it unfolds in a way that endures.

That is why I point people inward with the words of Jesus: “The kingdom of God is in your midst” and “within you.” My message is: stop frantically looking “out there” for the next fix or the next teacher shouting “Here He is!” and start consenting to the quiet, patient work of God inside your own soul.

When we “reintroduce eternity into the equation,” as I’ve written, our daily lives are no longer just a fog of aimless action. Intimacy with God reframes everything:

• Suffering is no longer pointless; it can become a doorway
• Work is no longer just survival; it can become service and calling
• Relationships are no longer just attachment; they can become arenas of love and refinement

In that space, the existential void is not papered over; it is met. We rise “out of the grave” of numbness and distraction and into a life of passion, purpose, and presence that is anchored beyond the temporary.

What part of that resonates most with where you are right now?