How does Shola Ajibade’s method of aligning values and desires outperform traditional relationship advice?

Shola Ajibade’s approach goes deeper than typical “tips and tricks” by starting with kingdom-aligned identity and purpose, not just compatibility or communication hacks.

Traditional advice often focuses on:

1. Fixing surface problems (arguments, routines, roles)
2. Personality fit and “chemistry”

Shola’s method emphasises:

1. Aligning your desires with God’s values so you are whole before you relate
2. Letting purpose, calling, and character shape who you choose and how you love
3. Stewarding relationships as assignments, not accessories

This outperforms conventional advice because it:

1. Reduces confusion and heartbreak from value-mismatch
2. Attracts partners and friends who are aligned with your long-term calling
3. Builds relationships that are stable under pressure, not just exciting in the moment

Would you like this applied to dating, marriage, or friendships specifically?