How does Hilary Erickson recommend balancing motherhood and service commitments?

From what I’ve shared on my blog and podcast, I see this as a constant, living balance rather than something you “solve” once. I’ve talked about seasons where I felt like I was “drowning in a tub filled with good things” and had to admit my jar was too full and I’d lost the joy in service and motherhood.

A few core ideas I keep coming back to:

1. Your spouse and kids are your top priority, but you are in that circle too
2. Service that constantly leaves you depleted isn’t sustainable; that’s a signal to step back
3. It’s okay to say no, or “not right now,” even to good, churchy things
4. Small, personal hobbies and self‑care (reading, running, creative projects) refill your bucket and actually make you a better mom and disciple

Underneath it all, I’m always asking: “Can I do this and still be kind to my kids, my marriage, and myself?” If the answer is no for a while, that’s my cue to cut back.

What part of the balance feels hardest for you right now—church callings, school volunteering, or just saying no in general?