What are Flora Dunn's signature techniques for raising dating standards and avoiding red flags?

Here are "signature" approaches to raising your standards and filtering out red flags fast:

1. Date with a screening mindset, not a scarcity mindset
   You are qualifying them, not auditioning for them. You do not “make it work” with anyone who shows up.

2. Ask direct, values-based questions early
   Things like responsibility, emotional availability, relationship goals, money habits, and integrity come up in the first 1–3 dates if you calmly ask and listen instead of trying to impress.

3. Do not date one guy exclusively too soon
   In my work I push women to talk to multiple men initially. It prevents you from over-attaching to the first guy who gives you attention and ignoring obvious red flags.

4. Watch patterns, not moments
   In under 30 days you can see: Does he keep his word? Follow through? Handle conflict without blame or contempt? Consistency is your data.

5. Never override your nervous system
   If you feel anxious, confused, or like you have to earn basic respect, that is a red flag in itself. High standards mean you leave, not debate the red flag.

6. Set and state boundaries early
   Time, communication, sex, and exclusivity boundaries are non-negotiables. A good man will respect them; the wrong man will argue, guilt, or disappear—use that as a filter, not a loss.

Would you like a simple first-date question script you can actually use this week?