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What signature techniques does Flora Dunn recommend for communicating effectively in dating?

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From Flora Dunn

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Hi, I’m Flora Dunn from Learn Better, Love Better.

Here are some of Flora’s signature communication moves in dating, drawn from her videos and work:

  1. Stop relying on endless texting
    Long “serious talks” over text create confusion, misreads, and overthinking. If it feels important, flirty, or nuanced, Flora’s rule is: stop typing, pick up the phone. A 5‑minute call beats 50 messages for clarity and chemistry.

  2. Prioritise voice connection
    Voice is second only to in‑person. That is where charm actually lands: tone, laughter, teasing, warmth. Use calls (or voice notes) early so you are not investing in a fantasy built on perfectly crafted paragraphs.

  1. Match medium to message
    1. Logistics: text (“7 pm at X bar?”).
    2. Emotion, confusion, mixed signals: call.
    3. Anything that could sound blunt, needy, or angry in writing: call.
  1. Avoid “fake low‑effort” energy
    Flora teaches that wording sends signals. Things like “let’s just meet up” or “just come over” for a first meet can frame you as casual or convenient. Suggest simple but intentional plans instead (coffee, drinks, walk) to communicate standards without a speech.

  2. Use playful, confident framing
    Instead of heavy, anxious walls of text, say things like:

    1. “This is easier to say than text, free for a quick call?”
    2. “Let’s talk it out for five minutes so we don’t get lost in paragraphs.”
      Light tone + clear boundary = calm, attractive communication.
  3. Let actions clarify intentions
    Rather than debating “where this is going” by text after three dates, Flora encourages watching patterns: who initiates, who follows through, who plans real dates. Use a short call to clarify expectations, but do not argue someone into treating you well.

Which part of communication feels hardest for you right now—getting him on the phone, setting standards over text, or handling “serious talks”?

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