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Can Flora Dunn's 'damsel in distress' trick be applied to other social scenarios?

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From Flora Dunn

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Yes, the “damsel in distress” concept can absolutely translate beyond dating, as long as it is used ethically and lightly.

The core idea is: you’re already in a situation that could feel awkward or like a “loss,” and you turn it into a natural excuse for connection by asking for small, reasonable help.

Here are a few non-dating examples:

  1. Work event: “Hey, I’m new here and my colleague bailed on me—mind if I join you for a bit?”
  2. Conference: “My friend cancelled last minute. Is this seat taken, or can I hide here with you?”
  3. Social hobby group: “I was supposed to come with someone, but they flaked. How does this usually work?”

Key is to:

  1. Keep it light, not manipulative
  2. Ask for small favors (a seat, quick orientation, brief company)
  3. Be ready to shift quickly into normal two-way conversation so it does not feel like a ploy

Would you like help tailoring a version of this for a specific setting you have in mind (work, parties, classes, travel)?

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